Thanks Kitti
it helps to know just where your Dad is in the process - helps me anyway cos then I can relate it to my own experience.
It's hard to offer advice on the bare bones of a situation.
For instance, I'm not sure what you mean by
I don't want to ever be in the situation where I'd have to tell him 'no' and the possible outcome of him being angry with me
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I think most of us can handle a no - unless you've experienced specific anger from him before in this regard.
Don't compromise on your boundaries. They;re important. If he needs to be told no, tell him.
Chances are you're as important to him as he is to you...If he gets angry, he'll get over it too
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