Wait a second. Your alcoholic husband and his mother and sister took your kids from you? Am I reading that right?
As far as detachment goes, I'm only good at detaching from RAH once he is physically away from me. Plus, I'm 2 months into the stuff and my head is still spinning from it all. There comes a point where you really don't focus on them so much anymore but more how you got yourself into this situation in the first place and how you're going to get yourself out of it, one way or another.