Hey Connie,
Yeah, it can be a crazy time coming back
We (she) had a Whole Lotta Whacky coming back from Rehab, too.
Drove me REALLY Deep into Alanon, and the two oldest kids into Alateen.
Like you, I was sort of counting days and numbers, too.
Somehow I had figured after Day 90 everything should just be all better. Had a friend ask me what happens if it is not? That just stopped me. Had not considered that. All I said was -- Then, Day 91?
Crazy kept right on going. To Day 180 and beyond. Did not really return to half way human until the 10th or 11th month. Still has some residual -- I think her partly because of her shame and guilt over how she has acted and her pride and lying to cover it up. For my part, I am being a hard-ass about all of it, so that just makes a splendid, joyful mix for both of us.
About all YOU can do is work on YOUR side. Turns out for ME, that is full time work. Gets me WAY OUT of her side, and that is a Good Thing.
If you wish to be amused with how an Engineer and Jr. Social Scientist Daughter would (ok, did) approach(ed) all this, here is some horrifying crap that makes me cry to go back and read. May do you some good to know that you are hardly alone.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-me-well.html