Originally Posted by
Hammer 
Would caution with Automatic Payments -- DO NOT ALLOW this from a primary account. Or even an account that allows "overdrafts." Or even account that can draw from or make claims against your primary account(s).
I meant voluntary payments controlled by you but set up to come out automatically on payday- we call it BPAY in Australia, not sure what you call it in the US. It's not controlled by the payee.
Hammer you have a strong personality - not everyone has the ability to say 'no' and make it stick if the other person has access to the money. The only way in that situation is to make sure the money's gone to the bills and other expenses as soon as the salary goes in.