Originally Posted by F50Lurker

I recognize unhealthy, addictive, codependent feelings and behaviors between myself and a recovered alcoholic person I recently reconnected with after 30 years. No one close to me has seen me behave this way with any other partners. I told him, "I haven't described myself as codependent or obsessive in decades," and he replied, "Oh, so I've still got the magic, eh?" Interesting and scary how my/our brains go straight to that dynamic even after decades of healthier relationships.