There are probably more lies he never told you the truth about either. He is/was an active A. That is what they do. I honestly would not hold my breath on him admitting a whole lot to you. He has nothing to gain from it and he might not remember everything. Why would he set himself up to get a negative reaction from you about past stuff? I am not advocating this, but find it better to be realistic that way there is less chance to get hurt.
Not looking/spying at/on his stuff is kind of like him not taking a drink, ya know?