I never did an online meeting I happen to be lucky I can find a meeting any night with 20 miles of my home. Pick up some literature and read as much as you can about alcoholism and do something nice for yourself. The focus has to be on you. You can only control yourself. I know you want to help the person you love but it is not your disease and until he realizes he has a problem it is only going to get worse. I am saying this with love because I am right where you are