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Old 01-16-2014, 10:22 AM
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SoaringSpirits
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Ugh, I feel your pain. Am going through similar stuff with my newly xAH. We also have four kids, although they are older than yours. I hear you about how the house is so much more peaceful. My AH is also stretching things out regarding custody and support. My answer to you about "how long" it will go on is what has recently hit me like a ton of bricks: Until the last one turns 18 or graduates high school.

So this is where you have to develop some superior coping resources, detachment, letting things go, all that you learn in Al Anon and the like. You learn to compartmentalize the insanity the A brings into a neat little box that doesn't contaminate the rest of your blossoming life. Otherwise the stress will kill you. You need to be prepared to be in this for long term. As I'm learning, just because we're divorced, we're still very much married in ways due to custody and supports and long-term obligations and unknowns of both.
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