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Old 01-13-2014, 01:40 PM
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This is critical IMO - RAH & I were just discussing cycles like this about a friend that I have long suspected of NPD or something similar. Part of what I think allows him to "fool" others into believing he has made changes is his ability to hold it together for long periods of time - which become long, harder to see patterns/cycles. The tell (to me) is that HE never actually changes, he just shifts focus to another form of escapism, calls it therapeutic, declares a breakthrough & buys himself time under the guise of having "made changes".
My NPD ex does this too. And when someone near and dear to him calls him on it he makes a big dramatic break for it, then "blesses" them be deciding to stay and be nice... just long enough before he does it again.
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