I unfriended xah and modt of his family. Started breathing more freely ever after. He's so out of it, took him a long while to realize.
The best, I can post without thinking how he would react. What a difference that simple fact makes!
He unfriended my brother, who wrote on his FB page something about deadbeat dada. After child support didn't come for 7 weeks last summer. So xah unfriended him!
Drama.
People tell me about xah's pity-me-please postings, but at least I don't have to suffer them first hand.
With four children, I can't exactly go no contact with xah. But I can limit the venues as much as possible. I recommend it!