Liz--actually I also wondered why you suddenly made no more mention of the apartment hunting and plans of the announced separation. I found out that if you state a boundary that is not enforced---they learn that our "boundaries" are just hollow words or "threats" to try to get them to fall into line. Basically, what happened to me was that they would be nice and compliant for a little while--until I relaxed---then back to the origional behavior.....aaaargh!!
dandylion