CourtJester: Many years ago when I was married to an addict, the same thing happened to me when he got into Recovery. I survived it and lived to tell the tale. at some point, it dawned on me that my estranged husband had found someone who forgave him for what he did in the marriage (to me!) Convoluted, I know. But that is his brain (and the other woman's brain), not mine.
So anyway, I survived, thrived, and was able to raise my kids with financial security, emotional security, spiritual security. It's all good.
Keep coming back!!