Your children will go through the normal stages of recovery when you leave. There will be some anger, and there will be tough times. But they will come out of it better for you leaving. The results will not be immediate, but they will come. I'm 30 now and am just getting to the point where I can say I'm "ok." Nobody got me out. Nobody stood up for me and said, "Hey, you're ruining your daughter's life!" I didn't get what your children are getting, and what this is, is a wonderful gift of love. We teach our children by example. You are showing them the worth of a woman, mother, and human being, and THEIR worth. That is HUGE for children of alcoholics. HUGE.