She might be like my AXH, thinking that you are friends and that she didn't do anything wrong or cause pain...
Part of my divorce paperwork states mentally cruelty on his part. I would definitely say her actions constitute mental cruelty. Or as I say to my friend about her ex trying to be friends with her...she's emotionally highjacking you. I'm afraid mine will just show up as well. If she was in recovery, she wouldn't try to torment you at all. Sorry she's trying to highjack you, most of them try to do that though don't they? Someone called it recycling I think?