TX.. I really do understand what you're going through right now. My AD is getting out of jail Thursday. She has been praying and even reads the bible I sent her. My son was kicked out of our home 2 weeks ago for popping pills, smoking weed and whatever he's doing. My husband wants him to come home if he "changes his lifestyle". (He's in denial). And my AD is sad because she knows she will have to distance herself from him (they are extremely close).
Hang in there. Keep the boundaries! You sound strong like you're in an ok place... (As ok as we can be dealing with this)