Sorry for what brings you here.
Originally Posted by
SNelsen23 
I've always been the kind of person to just "do." If something needs to be done, just tell me and I will do it. So, I guess I need some guidance here on things that I can "do" to help me cope with this crazy madness that I am dealing with.
I am glad you used the word "cope" instead of "control" in regards to the chaos of loving an active addict. You can't control his addiction or his recovery. Hence the crazy madness. All you can control is YOU.
I would direct you to the stickies at the top of the forum page, the ones here for substance abuse and the ones for F & F of Alcoholics. Learn as much as you can about addiction...not to learn how to help him, but to learn that you CAN'T help him.
Learn what you can about co-dependency.
And I would run, not walk, to the nearest Nar-anon meeting.