because she is in the hole close to $1,000
seriously? you really wanna bail somebody out, i'm available. i have about $20k in student loans (for my daughter), i owe about $300k on my house, and i'm carrying around $20k in credit card debt.
don't make her problems your problems. WHY? because they aren't YOURS. her debts. her business. her addiction. her business.
why do you feel so COMPELLED to clean up somebody else's messes? it seems that by doing so, by coming in and attempting to control her life for her, things became much much worse. they say we didn't CAUSE it, and we can't CURE it, and we can't CONTROL it, but we sure as hell can CONTRIBUTE to the madness.