^^^ those two quotes stick out the most to me too.
AH is always getting defensive and trying to make me appear as bad as he is. I'm a liar, a shopaholic, selfish, abusive, etc. A few weeks ago I texted him a few passages from "Codependent No More" in reference to myself. You know what he texted back to me? Top 10 Signs of an Abusive Wife with his comment that they all fit me to a T.