Thanks to all of you. There is some relief in my own acceptance at least. Ive spent way too much time worrying about how this will affect him, not doing that anymore. We got about a foot of snow and i just watched movies and made snow icecream after an extra day and a half off. No alcohol in the house and no one can leave, sort of peaceful for once for all of us. Rearranged my little girls room and put up her pink tree that she loves. Good times now at least. I cannot even tell you all how much i appreciate your being behind me. It means so much. Hugs and many blessings to all!