I went to my meeting lastnight........and it helped me tremendously........I am not the only one that has MIL issues.......I was honest........that I do feel threatened by this person.
I left before my H came home, because I didnt want to attack him the minute he came home........so I dropped the kids off and sat in the parking lot for an hour before the meeting started........
I decide to ask my H over the phone, when was someone going to tell me........he of course said that it was the last thing on his mind..........he has much more important things to worry about. He became angry with me, and said what is it hurting........and said that I was spoiled during my first marriage.........due to the fact that all my other two kids knew was me......because my ex and his family didnt give a ****.......and that I need to realize that his family is involved and that his mom only has bree and bree is her life and at the age of 70 that he is not going to tell his mom that she cant go to the school and have the first grade students read to her for an hour........it makes her happy and lets her be involved and gives her something to do.........
He says that I am jealous, and that I need to accept that Bree has more than one person in her life that loves her and that is healthy for her........and he said do you want bree to only have you like your other two kids.........he said if something happen to you, your other two kids would be lost because you are all they have..........but bree has more........he said that he dont like his sister but bree loves her and she loves bree, and just because he doesnt like her he isnt going to stop bree from seeing her........he says that he cant help it that they dont do other things for the other two kids, they are not their blood and there is nothing he can do to change the way they feel.......he made the choice to marry me with two kids his mom and sister didnt........
His mom has know my oldest daughter who is 15 1/2 now since she was two years old........you would think something would be there..........he says that I am jealous because my ex and his parents never see my two older kids and I have always the say so in everything for them...........and he says that I dont like it.....because bree doesnt just have me..........he says that I should be grateful that someone is taking an interest in brees life so much..........and I should be thankful for everything his mom does........and basically that I need to get over it...........and let them love bree and to try to stop their involvement.........and to stop pushing everyone out of my life.......and take a different approach and tell his mom I wish I could be there, but since I cant to thank her for her being there instead of getting so pissed.......