(((Hugs)))
I can so relate. My AH is in recovery, but a lot if damage was done including the threat to kill me, kill my cat, burn down the house... the list could go on and on. I can't/won't let that go. Everyone says if there is a relapse he will pick back up where he left off. I cannot go through that again. Ever.
Make your plan and execute it in your own time. It is not easy. I am still working on getting out, but have enough lined up that if he does start drinking again, I can be gone in less than 24 hours.