My therapist gave me this list. I think several of these apply to your situation. It sounds weird but it sort of took reading it to realise that yes I do have a right to loyalty, and I had never quite articulated that before.
Bill of Rights for Survivors of Emotional Abuse
1. I have a right to say "NO" and not be hassled or emotionally manipulated because I said no.
2. I have a right to have honesty from anyone I am involved with.
3. I have a right to exit a relationship.
4. I have a right to safety at all times.
5. I have a right to loyalty with partners, friends, family, and co-workers.
6. I have a right to forgive, but I have a right to forgive without continuing the relationship.
7. I have a right to make my own decisions.
8. I have a right to feel good about myself.
9. I have a right to eliminate people from my life who continually emotionally manipulate me.
10. I have a right to have and believe my own opinions.
11. I have a right to disagree with people, but still have a good relationship with them.
12. I have a right to have as many friends as I want.
13. I have a right to unconditional love.
14. I have a right to expect integrity and authenticity from people.
15. I have a right to a balanced life, including a close partner, friends, and family.
16. I have a right to confront anyone who tries to emotionally manipulate me.
17. I have a right to my own distinct and unique identity.