Learning to trust ourselves is a challenge because we have been manipulated. Since finding this site and attending alanon, I feel I have grown and learned so much. My AH is still hiding the fact that he drinks behind my back - but it is such a relief to know that I can trust my own instincts. Playing the guessing game with yourself can drive you straight to crazy-town! It doesnt help the hurt of feeling betrayed, because they will lie, but it does give you relief to know that YOU KNOW!
Great topic! Thanks :-)