Originally Posted by
m1k3 
Ixi and honeypig, my take on the whole thing is neither of you have the right to know whether or not they are drinking or not drinking.
They are adults and have the right to live there lives as they want just as you do. If you don't like the way they are living their lives or have trust issues with how they live their lives then you have some decisions to make on what your next steps are.
Your friend,
Thank you, Mike. This is exactly what I needed to hear (even if it wasn't addressed to me.) Part of being respected by others is also treating them with respect. Respect to make their own choices and face the consequences of those choices. Searching other people's things without their permission is
not respectful. Yes, I had to write that out for myself. I can apparently be a slow learner
