That is a HORRIBLE feeling to do what you did. I (used to) search the house all the time. Since our last show down, I will cop to opening ONE box and checking out the level on the cooking wine. THAT was bad enough.
MY AH has shown no signs of drinking so I have had less "reason" (in my sick controlling head,) to look. I really fear what I might do if I find anything.
A friend of mine told me once, If you start rooting around for evidence (of anything) cheating, gambling, drinking, you name it. All you get is to be RIGHT. Whcih does not always make you feel good.
I will have to agree with Leana here though I would be PISSED if someone went through my stuff in my house. I feel bad enough going through my own and really know I have really crossed a boundry when i go through his STUFF.
If you really can't trust, and there is not enough reason to trust, no matters who's fault, you might want to look at that.
With hugs from a fellow codie
For whatever that is worth.