Originally Posted by
Ixi 
When I confronted my A about it (because at this point I was past the point of no return), we got in a big fight where somehow I ended up on trial for not trusting.
This, in my mind, is not the reaction of a person in a solid, soul-searching recovery program - regardless of why on earth there's alcohol tucked away in the first place. (to drink??)
It is classic blame shifting - YOU don't have faith, YOU don't trust, YOU have some kind of problem.
I have been on the receiving end of this so many times, I get exhausted just thinking about it. I am so sorry you are struggling. I hope you can take advantage of the fact that you don't live together, walk around your peaceful house free of weird stashes of alcohol, and ask yourself, do I want to invest further in a life with a person who will likely always be teetering on the brink?
I agree with Dandylion. His actions going forward will show you everything you need to know. The hidden alcohol is not a good start.