Originally Posted by
honeypig 
I don't have any sage advice, just wanted to say that it seems to me there is a very, very fine line between burying my head in the sand, ignoring information that is important in making decisions, and doing the codie waltz again. I need to know the truth in order to make good decisions and take appropriate actions, and accepting everything at face value from someone who systematically lied to me for years isn't necessarily going to give me that truth. However, chasing him around to try to determine what that truth is, isn't healthy either, right?
That's how I rationalized it. We aren't attached by child or marriage, so I can (will? will.) leave if he starts drinking again. But he's sober now (and I truly believe he hasn't been drinking--he's terrible at hiding it when we're together and he wasn't shaking from withdrawal) and I want to be with sober him. But I need to know if he's drinking because I need to know if I should cut my losses and go.