Hello SpouseRecovery,
But how am I to trust him again?
he has constantly proven to me that he cannot be trusted. Why doesn't he see that?
I don't know that I would trust him. His behavior has shown you that you can't. He will need to earn your trust, and even then, your decision may be that it is too little too late. But that is entirely up to you. The manipulations of an active alcoholic are all directed toward protecting the drinking.
he constantly abuses it by texting me regarding our relationship etc.
Again, this is entirely up to you, but I would report any and all violations of the protection order as others have suggested. Please also make sure that ALL of your on-line passwords have been changed: e-mail, on-line banking, facebook, twitter, etc. His hacking into your accounts is against the law, and I hope you have kept a record of all incidents of this. I hope that his breaking into your parents vacation home was also reported to the police.
Please do everything you can to stay safe. Your husband sounds like an increasingly desperate and dangerous man. You and your little one are in my prayers.