My axh went to the mental ward twice then was transferred to a rehab. He's bipolar but I thought he was just having a manic episode, didn't think he was using on top of his meds etc. we are getting a divorce now, but I remember how great he was, caring, affectionate etc. he's just not that person anymore. I couldn't sit and wait for him to try to get back to that either because it more than likely wasn't ever going to happen. Get some support for yourself. You have to focus on you and she will hopefully do the work on herself. I'm sorry you're going through it, it was hard when I was. I cried when I visited the hospital, but then it became weirdly normal or I became desensitized.