I can so relate to this post! I am not going to the in-laws tomorrow because half of them don't know that my husband is in prison, and its not really their business. If I go, then they will all ask where D is. Grandma and Grandpa gossiped to the whole church about D going away and my dad told his church as well. It hurts to be gossiped about.
I am sad these holidays to, but I guess there must be hope in the end somehow...
hugs to you. you are not alone.