Liz, I agree that he is quacking---loudly. He knows your vulnerable spots and your hot buttons and he is trying to push them--HARD. He is trying what always worked so well, in his favor, with you in the past. It will probably come as a shock if you don't respond to them like Pavlov's dog, now...LOL.
Actually, the packing the coffee mugs demonstration is so transparent that it is l aughable. As a housewarming gift, a set of new coffee mugs might be a good choice.
Of course, all the "poor mouthing" is very typical--and will probably get even worse as he tries to sway you into capitulation.
Hold steady. Embrace your attorney and your alanon sponsor...LOL.
dandylion