I believe you had the perfect response (below). Good for you! You are simply saying hmm..no...i'm still standing my ground, I still want to separate, but if you want to change your actions be my guest!
That is perfect.
It got so out of hand and that's why I told him I'm sticking with my separation idea, but the ball is in his court on what he's going to do to prove to me and to our son that he's changing.[/QUOTE]