Isn't it amazing when you take a step back and see it for what it is? You are right, he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. It seems you are shifting to take a look at your own situation and your own healing, that is great! To just jumb b/t two women is nothing but...SELFISH. Is he looking at your feelings at all? Nope.
Hats off to you! Keep up the good work and keep posting! We are here holding your hand every step of the way!
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delusional 
I get what you are saying now!!! Last night he called and wanted me to come and get him from his wifes home. She was getting on his nerves. After realizing he did as he pleased. If she made him mad he came back to me. If I made him mad he called her. WOW what an eye opener. He wants his cake and eat it too. So he has no incentive to change. Though he was suprised when I said I am not coming after you. He can't have it both ways and she is getting his beer for him, so why should he leave?? He knows I want get it and he is not allowed to drink in my home. I was even shocked at myself that I didn't jump in the car and go after him. So I have to say thank you very much. You made me see that he will continue to have 2 women if I let him.