Single life is so much better than marriage with an addict. My home is clean all the time (he stopped cleaning up after himself etc.) no fights, I love being at home, I love that there's no stress at home anymore and I am so happy not to have to ask someone 20 questions because they won't give me a straight answer. I thought that I was going to be somewhat sad with it being the holidays, but I'm not, I'm so much happier. I actually bought decorations today, am spending Thanksgiving with friends. Getting a dog and getting on this site were the two best things I could have ever done in my situation. Everyone on this site has helped tremendous amounts. I was just so tired of how things were before I knew he relapsed and to be out of the madness was THEEEEEE best decision I made. He left town, but making the decision to be done with it mentally was the best option and I feel like a much healthier person for it.