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Old 11-23-2013, 09:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Zube View Post
Question: is Al-anon primarily for the family members of practicing alcoholics, recovering alcoholics, or both?

Let's say I'm 3 years into recovery and remarry. Would or should I encourage my new wife to go to Al-anon, or no?

As someone else already said, the principles of Al-Anon are helpful for maintaining a healthy emotional outlook for everyone.

To answer your question--I got rid of my alcoholic YEARS ago, and so I no longer have one close to me in my life, practicing or in recovery. Yet the person I am who allowed the alcoholic to run my life is still me--and that's the point I want you to understand.

Al-Anon is not about the alcoholic.

To answer your question, yes, I think a new wife/partner would benefit from Al-Anon, because by virtue of the fact that they are entering into a relationship with an alcoholic, there is something there within them that made them make that choice, and they will need every tool for living available.
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