Your husband will have to hit bottom before he decides to get sober. This is part of the process. If you decide to stay with him, as I did with my RAW then you must take care of yourself. In my experience you can't help him get sober, but you can be there to support him when he decides, after he hits bottom. It is not easy. Alcholism is a disease that has to run its' course. The most beautiful thing my wife ever said to me is "I want to go to treatment."