I hadn't seen this post before now.
And I'm absolutely speechless.
I hope you have wonderful plans for you and the kids for Thanksgiving, that you will unplug the phone, block your family from e-mail and social media, and just enjoy those children and be grateful that while you have to deal with your family, you don't have to be your family. Your mother may be hell to have for a mother, but imagine what it must be like to wake up every morning and be her. Oy.