Originally Posted by
hopeful4 
I don't know. I am certainly willing to have a life of hell and codependency to keep my kids safe. And for today, I am accepting that it's ok that I don't know.
But the thing is, that doesn't actually keep your kids safe.
What was most striking to me here was all the folks whose well intentioned parent (the non A) kept the kids in the same home w the A and who now as adults have anger at that parent for NOT protecting them as kids bc living w an A means constant worry, unpredictability, fear, rules about keeping mum etc..,.
I too stayed bc I felt that was how I could best protect my kids.
In truth I wasn't protecting them at all by having them w an active addict.