Welcome Hyrofant and Hope5!
Why don't you start a new thread and introduce yourselves so that we can get to know you?
To me, enabling is simply not letting the alcoholic face the consequences of their behaviour. In fact, that goes for anyone whose behaviour is unacceptable to me.
Hope all you newbies stick around - there is lots of good information on these boards and everyone is very supportive.
Love
Minnie
xxx