SomewhereElse--a good first step would be to get a job. Perhaps, also seeing an attorney and finding out what is involved with a legal separation. I don't believe the idea of waiting for o ne full year is a LAW. If you are to the point of not eating and losing weight--your welfare is at stake. Your mental and physical health should be your first priority. How can you be a good mother if you are this unhappy?
I just wanted to share these thoughts with you.
dandylion