Thank you so much for posting this...its come at just the right time for me. My AH left the family home 6 months ago as I had put a boundary of no vodka allowed in the house in place. This was after his stint of rehab. To be honest I was dreadfully upset that he had walked out and worried about how I was going to cope financially with 2 young children (from a previous relationship). I loved him just hated the vodka. I think I still love him.
He has recently been sending me text messages asking for forgiveness, friendship again etc. I have kept him at arms length but have been wondering if we can somehow make it work, maybe by having an unconventional marriage whereby we don't live together. Your post has reminded me of the potential consequences an A has on innocent children. You have strengthened my resolve again to keep him away from us so thank you again!