It took me a while to realize that he always had excuses for why he drank/relapsed. And it was always because of something that happened or something someone else did. But really we all have problems and how we deal with them is what matters. If everyone turned to alcohol every time there was a problem the whole world would be drunk!
In the last few days before I left, he went on a tangent and told me that he only used those other issues/people as the excuse he gave to me for his drinking but now wanted me to know that our entire marriage - I was the reason he drank and overdosed on pills and as soon as I was out of his life he was going to stop drinking.
Well - its been 8-1/2 weeks and not only is he still drinking, he is escalating out of control.