Maybe let's drop the Drunk Mummy Drama stuff for a minute and focus on that which matters . . ..
Originally Posted by
NikNox 
It's interesting to hear that you still suffer the effects of growing up with an alcoholic mother, even after she recovered. I hadn't actually considered that, well I had kind of . . .
mho. I follow you have to work through the crap, but Forget the Endless (it really is endless) Drunk Mummy Drama. You have your hands (very) full with the kid. The profile of the kid you are building. Especially with the Abandonment Issues and Self-Injury combo. Have you looked much into that?
But, does it ever really end for the children?
Generally a few outcomes, only one of which is good.
Let's start with the good one. They get real help.