I personally am very impressed. You seem very calm about all of this and YOU ARE LETTING HIM DO IT ON HIS OWN!!!
It's his mess and he has to figure it out. Good for you!!! I hope you see what a positive thing this is for you. I am so sorry you are going through this but I want you to know you motivated me today not to step into codependent behavior. For that I thank you.
I hope you get some rest and some peace! Hugs!