My XA has now been sober 6 weeks. He has relapsed so many times I couldn't begin to determine an accurate account. At least 15 times over the 4 years we were together. I was a very slow learner and every relapse came with a promise to never do it again. In February we will have been split up for 3 years.
He is 2500 miles away and I am happy that he is sober. But it is very possible... even likely that it is a temporary condition and therefore... I could never ever consider for a minute starting up a relationship with him again.
My peace and serenity is far too valuable to put at risk again.