Amy - I think you were ok in sharing your thoughts with your Dad - as long as you do it in a non-threatenting or controlling way ~ We can share what has helped us, what we see from the outside ~ without being disrespectful or demeaning.
Doesn't mean he will change, doesn't mean he will choose differently but you have given him the opportunity to look at his options. . .
Of course, we all know if we continue to tell them over & over & over & over again - it ceases to be sharing - it becomes nagging . . . so we have to be careful of that - lol (hello voice of experience here!! ha ha ha)
Thanks Seren ~ I appreciate the support - I just know HOW much I screwed up with my daughters - I want so much to do a better job with my granddaughters ~ my God is so gracious to keep giving me second, third & fourth chances - I want to make the most of every opportunity.
PINK HUGS!