thanks for the replies.
Something I've questioned is, when I look at the description of an ACOA, I'm like, "yep, that's me" I understand that those are things I don't like about myself or traits I instinctively use, but EX> when does trying not o be a control freak become failure to be a leader?
Interesting thing I've begun to notice lately is how much I hear my parents (more my mother) voice in my head labeling and judging me. Weirdest times too, ike I think to myself "I'm going to go for a walk" then suddenly I hear in my head "you don't wanna do that." In the beginning I would do the opposite of whatever the voice said, and now lately I have been feeling very tired and almost "giving in."