Thank you everyone. So much. You know, getting sober or deciding you are a non drinker- whatever you want to call it- is sort of the easy part. It's this cleaning up the mess you made of your life is that is the hard part! I really appreciate the input and again- you wonderful people have helped me- I just couldn't articulate what exactly it was that is bothering me so much about this. A. I was not considered or consulted and B. I CAN BE IMPLICATED!!! C. Booze is a bigger part of his identity than I ever really notices. Thank you Myth!