I like the words attach with love rather then just detach, or don't enable. What this article did for me was clear up what enabling actually is- and YES I enable. But it also helped me to understand that I can support my AH in a way that doesn't enable him. Who cares if we are praising good behavior that are just plain responsibilities for the rest of us (ex: waking up on time, or coming home to help with dinner). Its not telling them its ok to do drugs, its telling them that we are happy they made a good choice today. If they see us happy with them for once, then maybe it will make them feel good for awhile and want to please us some more (like a dog or child does). Its a GOOD thing to give positive feedback, even if it seems to be for something so small.