Thank you so much for posting this! This really spelled it out for me. In the past I've fallen into the bad habit of punishing my AH over and over for past behaviors. I stayed mad and didn't give him credit for the progress he was making. I liked a lot of the other posts too, it got me thinking about my own experiences. I know it may seem silly to some to praise your spouse for making it to work on time but this is actually something my AH struggled with. When he was using he was late for work every day one week. He's now in withdrawal and feeling like crap and he's gone to work on time every single day. Sure it would have been easier to call in sick but he didn't. He followed his counselors advice and stayed active. I think that is progress. It shows motivation and determination.